In this lifestyle crazy, wear this, eat that, think this world we live in, we're told all the time what’s good for us. When we think about being good to ourselves we usually think of ways we could improve ourselves or our lives. Exercising to get fitter, reading more to be better informed, eating certain foods to be healthier, using certain products in our homes and on our bodies to be safer.
It appears that being good to ourselves has become about doing and not listening. If we choose to listen to the person on TV or the author of the article we loose the chance to be true to ourselves in the moment, to listen to our intuition. If we listen we can find all we need to know inside.
To connect to this inner teacher, wisdom, intuition, whatever you call it we need a way to tap into ourselves. A simple practice the allows us to make space for doing what's truly good for us in the moment. The practice of kindness towards ourselves can offer just that.
Kindness is revolutionary. Why is it so hard to show ourselves the same kindness we show others. When our friends say they feel tired, angry or lonely we say things to make them feel better, we don’t judge them. We show them kindness by way of a kind ear, a hug or whatever is needed to ease the load.
A kindness practice is about taking the pressure off, allowing yourself space and time to be you, whatever version of you that might be. The version that needs to skip the gym because your kids kept you up all night, that eats that cake because your friend suggested meeting in that cafe where they sell your favourite. Whatever that version of you the practice of kindness is not only about doing what's best for you in the moment, it's also about meeting that version of you without guilt, without disdain but with love and compassion.
So be revolutionary today. Stop doing what's 'good' for you and be kind to yourself.